Unforgiveness and how it poisons you

This is the story of how I was able to forgive the person who hurt me emotionally.

So, this is kind of a personal thing for me to talk about for I have been dealing with this for quite some time now. People say you just have to let go but the real question here is, how?

I guess, the reason why it was hard for me to let go is because the person who wronged me never apologized so I keep on seeing him, thinking he hasn’t changed at all.

I’ve recently read the book “Road to Forgiveness” by Cindy and Joe Griffiths and I couldn’t comprehend how they were able to forgive the very one who was responsible for their beloved daughter’s death. It’s an unnatural response, to a world full of hatred and curse and it gave me hope, because somehow, someone was able to do it.

These are the things that I found helpful as I struggled with unforgiveness. Look into this and study further, see how it helps.

So, this is how I beat unforgiveness:

1. Just forgive.

You have no choice but to forgive, unless you want to spend the rest of your life miserable.

2. Bad stuff happens. Inhale deeply, and let go.

I mean, bad things happen to good people. It’s a hard reality to swallow, but you must accept it. Inhale deeply, and move on.

3. Let go. Let go. Let go.

Forgive and forget. That’s what you have to do. Life goes on.

4. If you think it’s impossible, think again.

Anything is possible if a person believes.                                                 -Mark 9:23

Also, you can do anything through Jesus Christ who strengthens you. – Philippians 4:13

5. Smile and keep moving forward.
6. Do not procrastinate. Figure it out and solve it immediately

It’s a different case for everyone. You can’t expect to copy and paste. Realize that no one can help you but yourself. If you won’t help yourself, nothing else will. Analyze your situation and do your best to make things better. Your life depends upon it.

7. Steady your emotions.

Deny your emotions. The Bible asks us to deny ourselves, take up our cross and follow him (Jesus). So that’s what we need to do. We need to be different, to go above and beyond the standards of this world so that people can see Him (Jesus) in us. In this world full of darkness, decide to be light.

8. Stop living in the past.

Having unforgiveness in your heart will keep you imprisoned and trapped in the past; and this will weigh you down and affect the present. So stop living in the past, for it keeps you from seeing the truth, and what is truth? The here and now.

Awake oh Sleeper. Awake from your slumber!

Change is inevitable. People change. People deserve to have rooms for improvement just as you do.

9. You never give up on people.
10. Forgive because God has forgiven the unforgivable you.
11. Decide to become a peacemaker and receive peace.

Receive it fully.

            My peace I leave with you; My peace I give you. I do not give it to you as the world does, so don’t let your hearts be troubled or afraid.           – John 14:27

12. Pray for it.

There are some things that we can’t do on our own. You need to ask guidance, strength, and wisdom from God. Nothing is impossible through prayer and supplication. Always PUSH “Pray Until Something Happens” and pray without ceasing.

13. Be kind anyway, love anyway, and forgive anyway.

After we have forgiven, it’s hard to let that person in our lives again for fear that they might hurt us again. But you need to get rid of fear and open up yourself again to love and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Loving is being vulnerable.

14. Accept that life is unfair and fair all at the same time.

Life is not meant to be understood, life is meant to be lived. Having unforgiveness in your heart will make you feel paralyzed; you don’t feel alive at all. Choose life, choose forgiveness, and choose peace.

15. Practice it.

Unforgiveness as much as we deny it, is also a state of mind. A wise man once said, “I think, therefore I am” and “What a man thinketh, so is he.” So think about God’s love and how it changes you. Think about the sacrifices of Jesus. You need to renew your mind and fill it with Truth. Fill it with peace, love, joy and Jesus. With Him, you can overcome anything.

There’s no reason, there’s no choice.

17. Let it be.

You might not know why, you might not know the purpose of this, but know that there will be an answer. Let it be.

18. Think about how to mend what was destroyed.

You have to stop being angry. You also have to remember that the enemy only comes to steal, kill, and destroy. –John 10:10 That was his plan and purpose from the start. So, humiliate him and go above and beyond what he is capable of.

Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world.

– 1 John 4:4

Remember, you are God’s child so you have the authority to rebuke any works of Satan

19. You are not lost, you have already been found. Come back child. I wait for you.
20. Have faith, hope and love.

Faith. Is the evidence of the things not yet seen, of what is to come. Believe that it is now okay, that the enemy is defeated. Have faith in yourself, the other person, and God.

Hope. When everything seems hopeless, keep your eyes on Jesus.        He is the author and finisher of our faith. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. So even if things change, people changed, remember that Jesus is the same. He loves you, still. Eternally, unconditionally, faithfully.

Love. This is the greatest and most powerful force in the planet; so powerful that it can change a person fully. The earth and everything in it is formed in love. God is love. -1 John 4:8 so be strong because His love never fails. Nothing is impossible. Keep going, keep praying; Be strong in the Lord. I am rooting for you.

Follow these through and see if there is any progress. My prayers are with you. ∞